I think we’ve all been hypnotized. Hypnotized by movies, books, and stories that we’ve heard growing up as children.
All of these stories can provide a great source of inspiration, but as you grow up, you start to realize reality isn’t necessarily the same. When life doesn’t go right, goals don’t get accomplished, you can’t overcome a bad habit, or when you feel stuck in life – no genie magically comes out of a lamp to save you.
You can’t make your life change unless you try.
The stories we’ve been told as children have hypnotized us into thinking that someone or something external to us will save us. We need to be free from suffering pain. Redeem us from our bad behaviors. Retire us from our failures. Prevent us from making mistakes. Save us from lack motivation.
In reality, change is not possible unless we recognize that we must make changes within ourselves to achieve different outcomes in our lives.
Now, this doesn’t mean I’m a pessimist or believe the stories we’ve been told have done more harm to us than good. In fact, I’m an optimist, and I believe every story we’ve been told as a child lies a substantial amount of wisdom that can be applied if properly understood.
However, if you unconsciously look at these stories superficially and compare them to your personal life, you’ve made a grave mistake. You unconsciously live your life thinking that someone will rescue you from the current discontent.
We are all the stories we tell about ourselves, as many people say. If the script doesn’t change, it becomes a self-perpetual cycle of the same habits, emotions, and results, whether it be in our personal or professional lives.
On top of that, one of the most pervasive myths that seem to be interwoven into every story we’ve been told as a child is that we are somehow entitled to a great life. This someone or thing can fill our lives with wealth, happiness, satisfying relationships, and radiant health.
A better way of living requires responsibility.
There comes a time in everyone’s life when an act of 100% personal reasonability needs to be accepted for true change to occur.
As Jim Rohn has said, “you must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.”
That means we can’t blame our parents, circumstances, where and how we grew up, or that pesky zodiac sign for where we are in our lives. If you want to truly step into greener pastures and increase your life in all areas – we have to point the finger at ourselves.
Taking 100% personal reasonability of your life takes some vulnerability, but vulnerability is the first step to change because when you can admit that your current behaviors are not conducive to your future self – that’s an expression of psychological strength.
We often try to justify our victim stories, excuses, and why things aren’t working out, which further contributes to the terrible results we don’t want in our lives. Someone must be strong enough to see the light in themselves and do some self-introspection.
Think about the questions you want to ask: What are my habits? Which bad habit should I let go? How can I get rid of that bad habit in a few easy steps? Was there anything I said or didn’t say? How can I improve my results? Are my thoughts about me supporting my future self-worth?
“Taking responsibility is a commitment to own your life, to self-leadership, growth, and freedom.” – Christopher Avery
I can remember feeling the urge to try something new. I wanted to advance but didn’t know where. I tried to break my old habits but didn’t feel like I had the motivation. I wanted someone to invest in my ideas or business, but I wasn’t doing the work required to substantiate such a request.
It wasn’t until after a few weeks of introspection within myself that I realized no one was going to come and rescue me and lay out the red carpet for the better life I desperately craved for. To change the story I told myself, I needed to take full responsibility.
It was clear to me that I needed to let go of old excuses and habits if I ever wanted to make a change. I also had to get better each day. This wasn’t easy at first – but over time, it seemed like momentum began to fall on my side. When I started to take personal reasonability for the decisions in my life, that’s when life started clicking, and I felt like life was working for me rather than against me.
As the saying goes, “if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.”
If you don’t do it first, nothing will change. You have to take full reasonability, then that’s when life starts working for you.
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