“Death may be the greatest of all human blessings.” ~Socrates
There’s a lot of beauty and value in positive, light-and-love approaches to mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
But I challenge you to go a little deeper and to face something we’re all going to experience eventually:
Yes, this sounds bizarre and macabre. I’m serious!
There is a certain power and beauty in consciously visualizing and meditating on one’s death.
What could be more awakening and more revealing than putting your current self into the perspective of your dying self—into your last few moments?
This precious practice can help you bring clarity to your daily life.
Indeed, what is referred to as the “deathbed meditation” helps you to:
- Decide what is important to you
- Release old wounds and pains
- Find joy in what you do
- Discover your path in life
- Uncover your hidden gifts
Humans tend to think that our lives will never end. We live our lives in an autopilot mode, where everything and everyone is taken for granted.
You can use the deathbed meditation to help you when you are feeling lost, confused, stuck, out-of-focus, aimless, or stranded.
My Deathbed Meditation Experience
I’ve always been someone who It is urgently needed You should have a clear purpose in your life.
But something happened last year that tossed me into a dark existential crisis where I questioned (1) what my place in the world really was, (2) why old wounds were rising to the surface, and (3) why I felt so lost—despite having a strong self-care and spiritual practice.
My inner feeling was empty after the introduction of COVID-19, and the retriggering old traumas.
Do you ever feel like falling without anything holding you back? That’s how I felt.
Witnessing the suffering in the world and in my own circle of family members, I realized something major: “I could die tomorrow.”
I realized this isn’t a groundbreaking thought; we all have it at some point (I know I have). But in that moment it felt like a lightbulb went off in my head—I suddenly realized that the key to finding the answers to life was to contemplate something so few people dare to approach: death.
These answers, which I got from my deathbed meditation, have guided me in my life and refueled my vision.
What to do for the deathbed meditation
It is a form of radical self-love to do the deathbed mediation. It was there, it was that simple!
What makes it so radical? The deathbed meditation is radical because it’s rarely mentioned or practiced by anyone (that I’m aware of) due to its intimidating nature.
Let me assure that there are many answers that can be found that will enrich your soul, make you feel so happy, and give you so much joy that you took the risk.
Before you embark on this inner journey, please ensure you have a neutral mind—we don’t want minds that are feeling down or frazzled or unhappy for any reason (that will bias your discoveries).
When you’re ready, let’s begin:
1. Relax and feel safe.
Find a place in your home that is comfortable before you start your deathbed meditation. A blanket and pillow can be placed over your head to provide extra support. You can draw the blinds and curtains to darken the space.
It’s important that you feel safe and relaxed so that your heart and mind can open up and gain the most from the meditation.
Place a blindfold, sleep mask, or cloth over your eyes so that you can’t see anything. Next, take some deep, gentle, and grounding breathes to settle your mind.
2. Optional: Find funereal music
Some people prefer their meditations to be totally silent, but if you’d like to set the mood, find some funereal music (or music that would be played at a funeral) to prepare your mind for the scene.
Do what makes you most comfortable and safe. If you prefer total silence, that’s okay too.
3. Imagine yourself lying on your deathbed, with loved ones by your side.
In your mind’s eye, imagine that you only have a few minutes (or hours) left to live. Your loved ones surround you and make you feel at ease.
Which room do you live in? Which type of seat or bed supports you the most? To enrich your visualization, focus on some of the kinesthetic details.
4. Ask yourself, “What was I most happy to have done in life?”
This is a crucial question that you should reflect upon.Which activity made you the most satisfied in your entire life? For as long as it takes, let images and scenes play out inside your mind.
This powerful question can help you focus on the essence of your topic. What really matters is In your life right now. If you’re struggling with making an important decision or finding a life direction, this simple question could be the key to unlocking deep truths residing within you.
5. Ask yourself, “What did I regret not doing?”
While regret is an inevitable part of our lives, we often avoid it or try to hide it. You can avoid regretting too many things by asking this question during your meditation on deathbed. Was there anything you regretted? It is not doing?
Let any thoughts, images, memories, or scenes run through your mind’s eye. These are important to keep in mind.
6. Ask yourself, “What is the most important thing in life to me, above all else?”
We are not always aware of our values. Values guide us in life, yet they are important. By asking the question, “What is the most important thing in life to me, above all else?” we come to understand, You must truly get it What we really value deeply.
Spend a few minutes in deathbed meditation contemplating this question. Let it soak into your soul, mind, and heart. Your entire life can be transformed, expanded, or empowered by the answer that you find.
7. End the meditation by saying thank you to your loved ones
Once you’re done asking all or some of the above questions, smile warmly to your loved ones and thank them for their presence in your life. Then, when you’re ready, return to the room you’re in, get up very slowly, and do a big stretch.
You might also like to drink some water to ‘emotionally digest’ your experience.
Deathbed meditation is one of my most effective tools for getting to the core of what I love, treasure, value and need.
Besides our mortality, how else could we put the world in perspective?
If you’re feeling confused, lost, or in need of direction, I highly recommend that you try this unique meditation at least once. It might surprise you at how transformative this practice can be.
Aletheia Luna (psychospiritual writer and author), is an internationally recognized spiritual mentor. Her mission as a victim of religious fundamentalism is to inspire others and help them find their inner strength, love, and light. Her articles are well-known, but she also has many books and journals about Spiritual Awakening and Self-Love.
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